Emotions Need to be Stable

People need the east wind. If they insist on going against the wind, they often end up wasting their efforts. It’s only when the east wind arrives that it becomes easier to soar with it. Some people, due to impatience, choose to give up long before the east wind arrives, and that’s a great pity. When will life get better? No one can give us an exact answer. The only thing we can do is endure.

In essence, enduring is about being able to stabilize and establish oneself. Especially in today’s uncertain environment, it’s crucial for a person to remain stable, to endure, to avoid being impulsive or impatient. Otherwise, one will only sink deeper, fall faster, and ultimately not only fail to stabilize but also worsen their own situation.

Truly capable individuals can always see the situation clearly, adapt to the times, move forward when necessary, and retreat when needed. By doing so, by acting in accordance with the situation, without causing trouble or chaos, one can stabilize themselves and ultimately gain control over their life and destiny.

Nietzsche once said, ‘He who cannot obey himself will be commanded.’ Therefore, the mystique lies in the ability to remain stable, regardless of whether the current situation is favorable or adverse. By staying stable, one wins.

Stability in Speech and Actions

To stabilize oneself and one’s life, the most concrete expression is to present oneself as reliable and mature in speech and actions.

Many people are too immature, even self-centered, speaking without restraint and often using harsh words, easily provoking others. Such individuals fail to reflect on themselves and have no understanding of social graces. As a result, they offend people wherever they go, making their work and life increasingly difficult. Even when faced with the consequences, these individuals fail to reflect, and may even blame others. Given the opportunity, they may resort to opportunism, and may even engage in unethical and possibly illegal behavior. Zeng Guofan once said, ‘One should not act recklessly, nor speak carelessly.’ A truly mature person is one of restraint, reason, and principles. With age and experience, one comes to understand that no matter how many opponents or enemies one may have in life, it is crucial not to lose composure, and never to become ensnared in difficulties. Instead, one should strive to stabilize oneself, maintaining a certain attitude and demeanor. By doing so, one will not be led by desires, nor will personal reasons shatter one’s image in the eyes of others.

Renowned athlete Guo Jingjing once said, ‘No matter who your opponent is, no matter how powerful, it’s important to become the person you want to be, and in the unpredictable journey of life, find the stability within… Life is like an unstable ten-meter diving platform, requiring repeated leaps and consistent stability, facing the test of success and failure… As long as you can stabilize your core, you can live with both calmness and strength.’

Life will always present challenges, as well as various pressures and troubles. However, if you cannot overcome them, troubles will only increase, and disasters will become more frequent. It’s essential to learn to stabilize oneself, to regulate one’s words and actions in social interactions, and to leave a respectful, sincere, and reliable impression on others. This will reduce friction in one’s life, allowing for more time and energy to improve oneself and grow.

Stability in Abilities and Strength

Without sufficient ability and strength, it is challenging to thrive in today’s competitive and materialistic society.

Many may blame society for its coldness and human nature for its indifference. However, those who hold such views are often sensitive and fragile individuals. In times of difficulty or when in life’s troughs, they may harbor negative and pessimistic thoughts, leading to extreme behaviors and a sense of being owed by the world. Yet, when fortune smiles upon them, they become arrogant and disdainful. If they also harbor grudges, they may believe their achievements are solely due to their own efforts and seek retribution against those who have wronged them. In the long journey of life, there will be moments of good fortune. However, if one constantly attributes success to elusive luck, rather than to accumulated abilities and strengths, their confidence will eventually collapse like a mirage. Such individuals may focus on suspicion and doubt, losing themselves in the process. Sociologist Gustave Le Bon stated in ‘The Crowd: A Study of the Popular Mind,’ ‘When a person integrates into society, they lose themselves.’ To navigate life and its challenges, one should simplify, remain direct, composed, and focus on self-improvement and transformation. By doing so, one’s abilities and strengths will speak for themselves, leading to a more confident and courageous self.

Stability in Emotions and Mindset

Once one’s abilities and strengths are stable, it’s essential to stabilize one’s emotions and mindset.

The happiness and fulfillment of life are born from positive emotions and a strong mindset. As ‘The Power of Positive Emotions’ states: it is not a complete and healthy life that creates positive emotions, but sincere positive emotions that create a complete and healthy life. One must continually strengthen their emotional resilience and stabilize their mindset. As one’s inner core becomes more stable, they will face life and the future with a more positive, optimistic, and composed attitude. This inner stability will manifest externally, as expressed in the words of Zhuangzi: ‘He is praised by the world without seeking it, and is criticized by the world without being affected.’ Achieving this state will lead to inner calmness, spiritual fulfillment, and a broader perspective. When faced with life’s unpredictable challenges, stable emotions and mindset will ensure stability in all aspects of life.

In conclusion, Yang Jiang once said, ‘We once yearned for the ups and downs of fate, only to realize in the end that life’s most beautiful scenery is found in inner tranquility and composure. We once sought external validation, only to discover that the world belongs to us, and has nothing to do with others.’