Choosing Complain: A Path to Life Ruins

Undoubtedly, a person who loves to complain will never live a good life. Emotions are natural for humans, but if one is always emotional, always habitually complaining, then both in life and work, one embodies failure. The Japanese literary master Kazutoshi Hotta once said a statement that resonates deeply: “It’s normal for people to have emotions, but if they can’t control them, they can only degrade into emotional creatures.”

No matter which stage of life you find yourself in, always remind yourself not to complain. Even if you complained yesterday, tell yourself today that it’s time to change, otherwise, sooner or later, your life will be ruined.

More Complains, Harder the Road Becomes

In reality, only incapable individuals complain about themselves, others, and society. A truly formidable person, even if their present abilities cannot overcome the difficulties they currently face, will not spend their time and energy complaining but will channel it into a challenge.

Only through taking action and embarking on a brave exploration and challenge, they can ultimately create the possibility and probability of winning. Otherwise, once caught up in complaining, one cannot maintain a positive state or approach problems with a good mindset. As the leading official of the late Qing Dynasty, Zeng Guofan, once said: “Excessive complaints will lead to considerable blockages.” Therefore, the more one complains, the more problems they will have, and the more troubles will arise.

Ultimately, they will only be trapped in various troubles and pains, unable to make clear judgments or take positive actions for change. As a result, it’s obvious that the more one complains, the tougher their life’s path becomes. Before setting out, one must abandon some bad habits, such as the love for complaining. Only by doing so can one truly lighten their load and proceed steadily and far.

More Complains, More Incapable They Become

When a person habitually complains, the entire world has effectively abandoned them. The principle is simple: when you choose to complain, will the world really change because of your discontent? The answer is often no. In this world, God or Fate will never prevent a person from complaining, but will certainly make life more difficult for those who love to complain. Perhaps many people believe that it’s perfectly alright to grumble when unhappy in life or encountering troubles at work, and that it’s no big deal. However, adopting good habits is difficult, while acquiring bad habits is easy and can even happen in a matter of seconds.

Therefore, while occasional complaints may seem trivial, without reflection and understanding of oneself and one’s relationship with everything around, when faced with the same conditions and environment, if one gets stressed, they’ll utter complaints, likely becoming increasingly accustomed to it. Ultimately, the urge to complain will become reflexive, even direct and unstoppable. As the saying goes: “What you swallow determines your physical form and weight, and what you say out of your mouth determines your reality.” Therefore, when a person increasingly loves to complain, they lack the capacity and rationality to make judgments and distinctions.

Most of the time, they’ve made themselves slaves to their emotions, unable to control their way of speaking or their choices. Eventually, as they become more accustomed to complaining, they receive a sense of satisfaction from it, but in reality, they’ve become more mediocre and incapable.

For the Remainder of Your Life, Forsake Complaining

In “A Complaint-Free World,” there’s a quote: “Complaining never brings or attracts the things you want; instead, it forever keeps those things you don’t want.” When a person, regardless of prosperity or adversity, never complains from start to finish, that is when they begin to grow strong. Because they understand very clearly that life is long, and what is called gain and loss, success and failure, right and wrong, are all but temporary.

Whether good or bad, one should evaluate oneself less or even not at all. Only in this way can a person truly learn to let go, to be indifferent, not to dwell on things or complain. Through this, one can focus on self-improvement single-mindedly and cultivate their life without distraction. As the Tao Te Ching says: “By constant diminishing one reaches a point of diminishing returns, and through such non-action, one accomplishes everything.” Through this, one will gradually experience how pleasant and powerful a life without complaining truly is.