How to Maintain a Sense of Moderation in Interpersonal Relationships？

“Han Feizi” says: “Placing a monkey in a cage is the same as putting it with a pig, so if the situation is unfavorable, do not insist on this or that. You will find that those who always like to show off, even if they like to compete, will ultimately end up tying themselves down. Truly smart people always know to exercise moderation, act within their limits, understand when to advance and when to retreat, and not to show off. In this way, one should not force things, learn to lower expectations, and not insist on having things their way. This way, you can live more and more calmly, mature, and composed.

Moderation and Maintaining Boundaries

In the “Round Table Club,” Liang Wendao shared the viewpoint: “The most ideal human relationships are almost like the relationship between a person and a cat. It keeps you company but does not interfere with you, and you should respect its space and independence, not excessively disturb it. Everyone has their boundaries.” Indeed, many times, you might think that people with good relationships should be close, inseparable, and have no secrets from each other. However, you will find that when you have such thoughts, over time, the relationship becomes draining for you. Because in every move, you inadvertently wear yourself out, tire yourself, and make yourself tired. Every relationship needs to maintain a sense of moderation, understand when to stop, and not to disturb excessively. This way, everyone has their own space and time, and their boundaries, making the process of interaction more relaxed and pleasant.

Sanmao once said: “Even among close friends, we should not lose our sense of boundaries. Thinking we are close, in the end, leads to isolation.” As the saying goes, “The friendship of a gentleman is as clear as water.” Living in this world, we inevitably need to make friends, and it is indeed unavoidable to interact with others. Therefore, since we need to communicate and interact with others, we should maintain a certain degree of moderation, know when to stop, and be able to maintain friendships with a light touch. Ultimately, because it is light, it does not become tiresome, and it can last.

Moderation and Respecting Boundaries

In human relationships, it is important to maintain a sense of moderation and distance. In fact, the same should apply to our relationship with material desires. Only by keeping the necessary distance can we avoid being excessively consumed and squeezed by so-called material desires. Often, if a person’s desires are too strong, or their thoughts are too cluttered, it means that they may not have done anything, yet they are tired. Ultimately, it is because we have fallen into internal consumption.

“The Great Learning” says: “Know when to stop; stop at the ultimate good.” In the face of desires, thoughts, and even survival, we must know when to stop. At such times, stopping does not mean giving up or abandoning oneself, but it means knowing when to act and when to stop. Only by achieving this state, can one face temptations of fame, wealth, and power, and learn to stop at the right time. Ultimately, only by maintaining a certain distance from other things and knowing when to stop, can we avoid excessive consumption, wear and tear, and consumption. In the end, we can give our minds more room to stretch and achieve the best spiritual practice.

Moderation and Setting Boundaries

At all times, we should have a clear view, a sober mind, and a broad vision, that is, to know when to stop. Only by exercising moderation, maintaining boundaries, and setting limits, will you find that you can handle work and achieve success more effortlessly in daily life.

“The Book of Changes” says: “Stop when it is time to stop, and act when it is time to act. In motion and stillness, do not lose your way, and the way will be bright.” Life is short, and many times you should stop when it is time to stop and act when it is time to act. There is no need to have too many thoughts. In motion and stillness, you can maintain clarity, maintain confidence, and just act. Often, such actions will lead to more satisfying results, and the future will be brighter. Even when you have accumulated experience and lessons, you will know when to act within your limits, when to cut losses, and when to persevere. In this way, you can live freely and openly.