Meditation is much simpler than you might imagine. Many of us have consciously tried to relax, such as controlling nervousness before an exam or managing negative emotions. Meditation that focuses on breathing helps clear your mind of distractions and keeps you calm. With consistent practice, it has a profound impact on your life, allowing you to remain composed in all situations and live with a sense of tranquility, unaffected by success or failure. It can even open up new perspectives and insights.
Modern life is filled with stress. While it offers more excitement and joy, it also presents more challenges, risks, and fears. Emotions like anxiety and worry, as well as physical and psychological endurance, have their limits. When these limits are reached, breakdowns can occur. There’s no magic solution to eliminate these emotions—the answer lies within yourself. We’ve grown accustomed to enduring stress, clinging to a survival mindset, and forgetting how to love ourselves.
Meditation doesn’t help you escape stress; it teaches you how to face it. During meditation, you might momentarily “step away” and experience a blank state of mind. However, this isn’t an escape. You may hear inner voices, but they won’t interfere with your meditation. As your mind and body connect, the long-held pressures are temporarily released, and only by releasing them can problems become clearer and more organized.
Through meditation, you’ll analyze the causes of stress, recognizing that many situations are “choices” you’ve misinterpreted as “musts.” The stress you feel is often self-imposed. Choosing rather than passively accepting is an act of self-care, driven by pure love for life, not out of fear, guilt, shame, duty, or obligation.
Often, we strive to become better versions of ourselves and work hard toward that goal, leaving no room for imperfections. When we fall short or make mistakes, we become deeply self-critical. This happens because there’s a conflict between our ideal self and our actual self.
Many people get trapped in this cycle of self-blame and self-loathing, spiraling deeper into it. During meditation, you can write down your specific self-blaming thoughts on a piece of paper and repeatedly remind yourself to accept your real self. Only by accepting yourself can you accept others, love yourself, and find true happiness.
To love someone, you must know them. If you don’t understand them, you can’t truly love them. The same applies to yourself. Many people don’t know their true inner self; they haven’t even glanced at the doorway to their own heart.
In meditation, start by observing yourself. Look at your behavior, without judging whether it’s good or bad, satisfying or disappointing. Just let it exist objectively. Feel your emotions at the moment, whether they are joy, satisfaction, frustration, or anger—just experience them purely.
Discover the true needs behind these behaviors and emotions. Don’t shy away from them. Speak to yourself, acknowledging your true needs, and accept yourself as you speak. Try this practice, and you may discover and understand the real you, leading to greater self-love.
Any emotion or thought that arises during meditation has no right or wrong. This is your world—an act of self-care and self-love. The peace and joy you gain through meditation provide positive energy, helping you see the beauty in the world and giving you more reasons to love yourself.
A study from Massachusetts General Hospital shows that regular meditation can thicken the cerebral cortex, the part of the brain responsible for higher mental functions like memory. However, starting meditation isn’t always easy. Begin with just one minute of meditation and gradually add 15-30 seconds each day. The simplest way to build a habit is to start small and practice consistently according to a schedule. Even if you’re extremely busy one day, just meditate for a minute. The key is not to break the chain.
After finishing my meditation, I spend 5-10 minutes expressing gratitude. This involves appreciating what you have rather than lamenting what you lack. Gratitude makes life more positive, generous, and even lowers blood pressure. So, it’s worth spending a few minutes to express your appreciation for the things in your life. You don’t need to believe everything is the work of a higher power—you just need to remind yourself to be thankful for what you have.
I believe my spiritual conversations are with what I call my “higher self.” This is something I’ve been working on for some time. Basically, I create a mind map using my name, and I connect four key words that represent what I want to achieve in life. Starting from these four words, I map out the actions I need to take to realize them. For example, the keyword “explorer” is linked to actions like trying new hobbies, talking to strangers, trying new foods, traveling to places I’ve never been, and constantly pushing the boundaries of my comfort zone.
Embrace this idea. The goal is to focus on becoming the person you want to be to live the life you desire. Each day, check in with yourself—not only remembering who you want to be but assessing whether you’re truly moving toward a better version of yourself.